How Mila Kunis And Ashton Kutcher Are Raising Their Kids
Despite being high-profile celebs, Kunis and Kutcher try to keep their family life grounded.
Mila Kunis and Ashton Kutcher met on the set of “That ’70s Show” in 1998 when they were just teens. Although their characters, Jackie and Kelso, were an on-again/off-again couple, the pair never dated in real life until they reconnected at an awards show in 2012.
Despite trying to keep things casual, Kunis fell hard for Kutcher and the feeling was mutual. They married in 2015 and started their family together.
Not only do they make an adorable couple, but they seem to be thoughtful, caring parents as well. They work hard to keep their little ones out of the spotlight, but we can get a glimpse into the way Mila Kunis and Ashton Kutcher are raising their kids based on things they have said about parenthood.
Parents Of 2 Kids
And They’re Definitely Stopping At 2 Kids
While they might be doting parents, it seems as though they have settled on being a family of four.
“I will only have two,” Kunis told People Magazine. “[It’s hard] when they outnumber you. Right now, we’re fine. One hand, one hand. One eye, one eye. Two people, two kids.”
Ashton Named Their Daughter
We’re not sure whether their daughter Wyatt Isabelle is a daddy’s girl, but we do know he’s the one who chose her name. Kunis decided she didn’t like the name they had chosen, so Kutcher started shooting off random words.
“I was like, “Sign! Truck! Wall! Door!” he told Conan O’Brien. “Then I was like, ‘All right, I’ve got a really dumb idea. What about Wyatt?’ She goes, ‘That’s it.'”
Mila Named Their Son
When it came time for their baby boy, the expectant mother came up with the winning idea.
“So we’re on our way to date night,” Kutcher told Ellen DeGeneres. “And Mila turns to me and she goes, ‘So, I think Donald Trump’s gonna become the president and I think our baby‘s name is Dimitri.”
Kutcher was so distracted by her presidential prediction that he forgot about the baby name.
“Then two weeks later, I got home from work,” Kutcher continued. “And for some reason, the name just stuck in my head and I was like, ‘I think Dimitri is the name of the baby.’ And she was like, ‘I know, right?!'”
(The little guy’s middle name, Portwood, seems to be in honor of Kutcher’s stepdad, Mark Portwood.)
The Kids Come First
The couple might be household names, but in the eyes of their children, they’re just Mommy and Daddy — and that seems to suit them fine.
“I schedule my time with my kids,” Kutcher said during his keynote address at the Third Annual City Summit at Universal Studios in Hollywood. “I make those blocks, hard and fast in my calendar, and I don’t move them. I come home, I put my phone away, I don’t work when I’m with my kids and when I go to sleep, I don’t take my phone. I’m really, really diligent.”
Having Children Changed Their Perspectives
Having kids changes everything, even if you are a celebrity couple.
“As soon as this child was born, I immediately wanted to call my parents and just apologize because I never knew how much they loved me,” Kutcher told Conan O’Brien.
The changes were immediate for Kunis, as well.
“When I became a mom, so many things that I used to be insecure about and concerned myself with, no longer mattered,” Kunis told Variety. “The ability to say no, had a purpose.”
Raising Nice Kids
It is important to the couple that their kids don’t become spoiled. Kunis told the hosts of Australia’s “Kyle and Jackie O Show” that she’s thankful her kids will never have ketchup soup for dinner (something she did eat as a child), though she wants their kids to be appreciative of what they have.
“It’s a matter of teaching them from a very early age that, you know, ‘Mommy and Daddy may have a dollar, but you’re poor,'” Kunis joked with the show hosts.
Raising Smart Kids, Too
Fostering Sibling Love
When a new baby comes along, older siblings are sometimes jealous. Fortunately, this didn’t seem to be the case with Wyatt and Dimitri.
“She loves it. She loves her brother,” Kunis told E! News. “She wants him to sleep in her room and doesn’t get jealous or envious. She’s great. We got very lucky.”
Being Hands-On Parents
Kunis and Kutcher decided early on to be hands-on parents. Kunis cherished her time as a new mother.
“I love the fact that the first three months, she and I were up every night,” she told Ellen DeGeneres. “I figured her out and she figured me out and she now sleeps in her own crib in her own room. I will never have that time again so, for me, it was a really nice three months.”
“We just want to know our kid,” Kutcher told Ellen. “We want to be the people that know what to do when the baby’s crying to make the baby not cry anymore. We want to know, like, when she makes a little face or a little something, we want to be emotionally in touch with her. And I think the only way to do that is by being the one who’s there.”
Mom Keeps Working
Kunis has been realistic about enlisting help when needed. She also realizes there is a trade-off when it comes to working and parenting.
“When you do a film, you work, on average, 15- to 17-hour days,” Kunis told “Today.” “That’s my baby’s entire day that I’m missing, from before wakeup to after bedtime.”
“There’s no such thing as balance. It doesn’t exist,” she told E! News.
They Pick Work More Carefully
The actors consider how any role they sign on for will affect their family life before they make a decision.
“[P]rior to having Wyatt, I would work on any movie that I found interesting,” Kunis told the Hollywood Reporter. “I would just be like, ‘Oh, this sounds like a really great project.'”
“But I mean having a family at home, your priorities need to shift a bit, in a good way,” she continued. “I’ve done one movie between my kids, so yeah a lot has changed. And when I did the movie, I was very keen on it having to be close enough to home and making sure that my husband would be able to come with me, that he wouldn’t be working.”
There’s Still Plenty Of Mom Guilt
Even with planning and plenty of home time, spending time away from your kids is tough.
“I had so much guilt about going back to work after I had Wyatt,” Kunis told A Plus. “I felt like I was failing as a mother because I wasn’t there for her every minute of the day. It took me a little while to realize that I was a better mom going back to work because when I was with her, I was present 100%. If you are with your kid and you are present, and you are there and you’re engaged, and you care, then you’re a great mom.”
No Trust Funds
Wyatt and Dimitri will have to seek their own fortunes. Kunis and Kutcher try to prevent their children from feeling privileged in order to encourage the kids to succeed on their own.
“They’re not getting trusts,” Kutcher told Dax Shepard in an episode of Shepard’s podcast, Armchair Expert.
Instilling A Good Work Ethic
Kunis was 11 years old when she landed her first role and Kutcher was in his teens. They have both continued working ever since and seemingly want to encourage their kids to work hard, as well.
“What I want my daughter to learn from me is the value of hard work,” Kunis told Marie Claire.
Open To Investing
Although they might want their children to work for the things they want, they are still supportive parents. For instance, Kutcher has said the couple would financially back Wyatt or Dimitri in entrepreneurial endeavors.
“If my kids want to start a business, and they have a good business plan, I’ll invest in it,” he told Dax Shepard.
No Christmas Gifts
Although Kunis was born to a Jewish family in Kiev, Ukraine, they began celebrating Christmas when they emigrated to the United States when she was 7 years old. However, Kunis and Kutcher have decided not to give their children gifts.
“Last year when we celebrated Christmas, Wyatt was 2 and it was too much,” Kunis said in a 2017 “ET” interview. “We didn’t give her anything — it was the grandparents. The kid no longer appreciates the one gift. They don’t even know what they’re expecting; they’re just expecting stuff.”
They Encourage Generosity
Kutcher helped found Thorn, a nonprofit organization to fight child sexual exploitation. The couple has been involved with other charitable events such as Red Nose Day, a campaign to end child poverty, as this post from Kutcher’s Instagram account shows.
Just as they don’t overwhelm their kids with toys, they want them to learn the significance of giving. Kunis told “ET” that she’s working out new gift-giving traditions with the kids’ grandparents — ones that include charitable donations instead of an onslaught of holiday gifts.
They Practice Shabbat
Judaism is important to Kunis. Kutcher was raised Catholic but started practicing Kabbalah as an adult. The couple wants to share their beliefs with their children.
“We do Shabbat at our house,” Kunis told “Extra.”
In an interview with Dax Shepard, she admitted that the kids might outgrow their fondness for the family tradition.
“Too bad, so sad,” Kunis told Shepard. “On Friday nights you’re going to have dinner with us. Friday night we’re all going to get together and we’re just going to talk.”
The Kids Enjoy Simple Fun
Although the couple enjoys sporting events and the occasional music festival, they love spending time doing kid things, as well.
“We used to be like, ‘What’s the coolest club?'” Kunis told “ET.” “And [now] I’m like, ‘Let me tell you about the zoo in Atlanta and the bouncy house.’ There’s not one kid activity that I haven’t done yet with my child! We have a public library card everywhere we go. When it is really hot outside, we go to the library and read books.”
They Parent As A Team
Kutcher is a hands-on dad. For instance, he made the pancakes in this Instagram post for his daughter. Kutcher is a hands-on dad. For instance, he made the pancakes in this Instagram post for his daughter.
“Was trying for Skye from Paw Patrol,” wrote Kutcher in the Instagram caption. “My daughter, ‘what’s this supposed to be?’ #humbled” “Was trying for Skye from Paw Patrol,” wrote Kutcher in the Instagram caption. “My daughter, ‘what’s this supposed to be?’ #humbled”
However, he has also said that he has learned a lot from his wife about what it means to be a good parent.
They Apologize To Their Children
No parent is perfect. Even celeb moms and dads lose their cool sometimes. Kunis believes it is important to apologize to her children when this happens.
“The only thing I’ve ever felt guilty about, and I actually apologized to my 3-year-old, is when I overreact,” Kunis told People. “I absolutely apologize to her. Even from a point when she didn’t understand that I was apologizing, I would be like, ‘I’m really sorry. Mommy didn’t handle that situation very well.'”
The Kids’ Privacy Is A Huge Priority
If you haven’t seen many (or any) photos of Wyatt or Dimitri, there is a good reason. Their parents believe they have a right to privacy.
“My wife and I have chosen a career where we’re in the public light, but my kids have not,” Kutcher told Arianna Huffington on the Thrive Global Podcast. “I think they should have the right to choose that and I actually don’t think that they should have images of them as children that are out there, that somebody could potentially blackmail them with. It’s their private life; it’s not mine to give away.”
They Still Prioritize Their Romantic Time Together
Time together as a couple is important for Kunis and Kutcher. In this Instagram post with the caption “Night out with the wife,” they are enjoying some alone time — even if their wild, late nights are behind them.
“Your date night can’t be that wild because at 7 in the morning you still have, ‘Mama’ and you’re like, ‘What? I’m up.'” Kunis told E! News.
Their Kids Make Them Better People
Parenthood seems to suit Kunis and Kutcher.
“I’m Wyatt and Dimitri’s dad,” Kutcher told Arianna Huffington. “That’s my No. 1 gig. Everything else is secondary.”
He credits his wife for helping him become a better parent and a man of good character, but as he put it in his speech while accepting the Robert D. Ray Pillar of Character Award, “The greatest, greatest lesson in character in my life are my kids.”